The kind of feelings expressed in this obituary normally get cloaked in layers of euphemism, but for once a forthright son (daughter?) has decided to sock it to his/her dear departed mother in no uncertain terms.
From the Times - Herald ( Serving Solana and Napa Counties since 1875) comes this obloquy to-
Dolores Aguilar
1929 - Aug. 7, 2008Dolores Aguilar, born in 1929 in New Mexico, left us on August 7, 2008. She will be met in the afterlife by her husband, Raymond, her son, Paul Jr., and daughter, Ruby.
She is survived by her daughters Marietta, Mitzi, Stella, Beatrice, Virginia and Ramona, and son Billy; grandchildren, Donnelle, Joe, Mitzie, Maria, Mario, Marty, Tynette, Tania, Leta, Alexandria, Tommy, Billy, Mathew, Raymond, Kenny, Javier, Lisa, Ashlie and Michael; great-grandchildren, Brendan, Joseph, Karissa, Jacob, Delaney, Shawn, Cienna, Bailey, Christian, Andre Jr., Andrea, Keith, Saeed, Nujaymah, Salma, Merissa, Emily, Jayci, Isabella, Samantha and Emily. I apologize if I missed anyone.
Dolores had no hobbies, made no contribution to society and rarely shared a kind word or deed in her life. I speak for the majority of her family when I say her presence will not be missed by many, very few tears will be shed and there will be no lamenting over her passing.
Her family will remember Dolores and amongst ourselves we will remember her in our own way, which were mostly sad and troubling times throughout the years. We may have some fond memories of her and perhaps we will think of those times too. But I truly believe at the end of the day ALL of us will really only miss what we never had, a good and kind mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. I hope she is finally at peace with herself. As for the rest of us left behind, I hope this is the beginning of a time of healing and learning to be a family again.
There will be no service, no prayers and no closure for the family she spent a lifetime tearing apart. We cannot come together in the end to see to it that her grandchildren and great-grandchildren can say their goodbyes. So I say here for all of us, GOOD BYE, MOM.
I hope he/ she had the honesty to tell her all this to her face while she was alive.
(Via Sarah Finch & The Amazombies)
UPDATE It seems as if one of her daughters was the author of the obit. (Via Snopes)
2 Comments
Dear Michael,
I understand that your mom must have been a evil woman but she gave life to a lot of kids and deserves in the end to have some kind of respect
Hi Heather, I fear you might have got the wrong end of the stick here.
The obituary was written by one of Dolores Aguilar’s children, not me. They live about 8,000 miles from where I am writing this blog. I am merely quoting what was written in the Times - Herald newspaper.
My mother died nearly two decades ago, and I certainly would not have written an obit like this one!